Breakup and heartbreak therapy for when you can’t stop replaying it
Therapy · Steamboat Springs, Summit County & virtual across Colorado
You keep going back over the last conversation. You check their profile even though you told yourself you wouldn’t. You’re functioning, mostly, but part of you is stuck in what happened. Breakup therapy isn’t about fixing you. It’s a place to actually work through the heartbreak, and the patterns underneath it, so you don’t carry them into your next relationship.
Does this sound like you?
You’re used to being the one who holds it together, the one who handles things. Right now, though, something has cracked open, and no amount of logic, distraction, or “staying busy” is making it stop.
- You can’t stop thinking about your ex, and the thought loops get loudest at night.
- You replay conversations, looking for the moment it went wrong or what you should have said.
- You don’t trust yourself the way you used to, in love or in your own judgment.
- You feel lonely even when you’re surrounded by people.
- You’re afraid of being vulnerable again, or afraid of choosing the same kind of person next time.
If a relationship has left you feeling broken, lost, or like you don’t recognize yourself anymore, you’re not alone, and you’re not weak for struggling with this. You’re human. Heartbreak can feel like grief, because it is grief.
Does therapy help with heartbreak?
For many people, yes. Friends can listen for a while, but heartbreak often lasts longer than other people’s patience, and it stirs up older hurts too. In therapy, you don’t have to be “over it” yet. Together, we create a space where your grief, anger, longing, and strength are all welcome, and we look at what the breakup touched in you.
That last part matters. A breakup often lands hardest where an old wound already lives, like fear of being left, feeling like you’re not enough, or losing yourself in a partner. When we work with that, the pain starts to loosen.
How long does it take to get over a breakup?
There isn’t a set timeline, and comparing yourself to one usually adds shame. Some people feel steadier in a few months. Others find a breakup reopens something much older and takes longer. What helps isn’t just time passing. It’s actually feeling and working through what happened, instead of pushing it down or staying stuck in the replay.
What we work on in breakup therapy
- Getting steadier: feeling calmer and lighter, so you can sleep, work, and show up for your life again.
- Grieving what you lost: the person, the future you pictured, and the version of you that was in that relationship.
- Seeing the pattern: why this relationship, why this ending, and what it echoes from earlier in your life.
- Coming back to who you are: trusting yourself again and reconnecting with the parts of you that got lost along the way.
- Getting ready for healthy love: so the next relationship isn’t a repeat of the last one, and you can experience love without fear.
Keep choosing the same kind of person? Going through a divorce? Was there betrayal?
How we work together
Heartbreak can feel easier to talk about while walking side by side than while sitting across from someone. We can work:
- In person in Steamboat Springs and Summit County (Silverthorne/Frisco): 90-minute sessions, often outdoors, side by side on a trail. We’ll start in a library meeting room or coworking space, and from there, the weather and your preference decide where we meet.
- Virtually, from anywhere in Colorado, by secure video.
- With horses. Ever wondered how horses help people heal? Ask about equine-partnered sessions.
I want this to be a space where you feel truly seen, understood, and supported. I’ll be honest with you, I’ll go at your pace, and I won’t tell you to just get over it.
Who therapy is for
Therapy is licensed mental health care with me as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW). It’s for Colorado residents only, and it’s the right fit when the breakup has stirred up depression, anxiety, old family pain, or past trauma. About therapy
Prefer to work on this alongside others? See groups, workshops and retreats.
Not sure where to start? We’ll figure it out together on your free call.
You don’t have to do this alone
If you’re feeling stuck in the same emotional or relationship patterns, exhausted from holding everything together, or unsure how to reconnect with yourself after everything you’ve been through, we can talk.
A free 15-minute video consultation is a space to slow down, briefly talk through what’s going on, and see if working together feels like a good fit. You don’t need to have the words for it yet. No pressure. No commitment.
Frequently asked questions
Is therapy worth it after a breakup?
For many people, yes. Therapy gives you support to grieve the relationship, feel calmer, and work through what the breakup stirred up in you, instead of just waiting for time to pass.
How long will it take me to feel like myself again?
There’s no set timeline. It depends on the relationship, how it ended, and what older hurts it touched. Actually working through the feelings, rather than avoiding them or replaying them, helps people let go of the past without losing themselves.
Is it normal to grieve a breakup this much?
Yes. A breakup is a real loss of a person, a routine, and a future you imagined. Grief after a breakup can include sadness, anger, numbness, and longing, sometimes all in one day. It’s a deeply human response.
Can I do breakup therapy online?
Yes. Therapy is available by secure video for anyone in Colorado. In-person sessions are in Steamboat Springs and Summit County.