Divorce therapy to help you come back to who you are
Therapy · Steamboat Springs, Summit County & virtual across Colorado
You’re still getting to work, still showing up for your kids or your friends, still handling the paperwork. From the outside, you’re holding it together. Inside, you feel exhausted, lost, angry, or numb, and you’re not sure who you are without this marriage. Divorce therapy isn’t about fixing you. It’s about helping you come back to who you are by actually working through what’s ending, so the old patterns don’t follow you into what comes next.
Does this sound like you?
- You replay the marriage and the conversations, looking for where it went wrong.
- You feel lost after the divorce, like you don’t know who you are anymore.
- You don’t trust yourself the way you used to, in love or in your own judgment.
- You wake up in the middle of the night and can’t stop thinking about it.
- You’re keeping busy with work, workouts, or dating so you don’t have to feel it.
- You feel lonely even when you’re surrounded by people.
- You’re afraid of repeating the same mistakes in your next relationship.
Divorce is a real loss, even when you’re the one who chose it. You’re not weak for struggling, and you’re not broken. This is a deeply human response to one of the hardest changes a person can go through.
What divorce therapy can help with
Divorce touches nearly every part of your life at once: your home, your money, your routines, your friendships, and, for many people, your kids. The practical side has its own professionals. Our work is about you: what all of this is stirring up inside, and who you want to be on the other side of it.
- Getting steadier: feeling calmer and lighter, so you can sleep, work, and show up for your life again.
- Grieving what you lost: the person, the family picture, the future you planned, and the version of you that lived inside that marriage.
- Working through anger, guilt, and shame: the feelings that often get pushed down because they don’t feel “allowed.” Here, they are.
- Handling the hard days: the stress of parenting through a divorce, holidays, and seeing your ex move on.
- Seeing the pattern: what this marriage echoed from earlier in your life, so you’re not stuck repeating it.
- Coming back to who you are: trusting yourself again and reconnecting with the parts of you that got lost along the way.
I don’t offer mediation, co-parenting counseling, or legal advice. If you need those, I’m happy to talk about where to look.
Divorce therapy for men and women
Divorce can be just as hard on men as it is on women, and it often shows up differently. Some people fall apart in the open. Others go quiet, throw themselves into work, and tell everyone they’re fine. So many of us get really good at surviving: getting through the day, holding it together, taking care of everyone else. Surviving, though, isn’t the same as living.
You don’t have to be good at talking about feelings to start. My clients describe me as direct, honest, and easy to talk to. I’ll meet you where you are, and we’ll go at your pace. If sitting across from someone feels like too much, we can talk side by side on a trail.
Rebuilding after divorce without repeating old patterns
When a marriage ends, it’s natural to want to move on fast, or to swear off love completely. Neither one brings the peace you’re looking for. Knowing why the marriage ended doesn’t stop the hurt on its own, either. Maybe you’ve already thought, “I understand where this comes from, but I’m still stuck in it.”
That’s why this work is practical and focused on real change: not just talking about problems, but actually working through them. We look at who you became in the marriage, what felt familiar, and what you want to be different next time, so change isn’t just something you understand, but something you begin to live. You stop reacting and start choosing. You stop losing yourself in relationships. You deserve to feel at peace within yourself and to experience love without fear, and when you’re ready to love again, you can walk into it as yourself. Healing doesn’t erase the past. It integrates it, helping you return to yourself, whole and grounded.
Keep choosing the same kind of person? Going through a breakup, not a divorce? Was there betrayal?
How we work together
A lot of people find it easier to open up with mountains in view than in a waiting room. We can work:
- In person in Steamboat Springs and Summit County (Silverthorne/Frisco): 90-minute sessions, often outdoors, side by side on a trail. We’ll start in a library meeting room or coworking space, and from there, the weather and your preference decide where we meet.
- Virtually, from anywhere in Colorado, by secure video.
- With horses. Ever wondered how horses help people heal? Ask about equine-partnered sessions.
I want this to be a space where you feel truly seen, understood, and supported. I’ll be honest with you, I’ll respect your pace, and I won’t take sides or tell you what to do.
Who therapy is for
Therapy is licensed mental health care with me as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW). It’s for Colorado residents only, and it’s the right fit when the divorce has stirred up depression, anxiety, old family pain, or past trauma. About therapy
Prefer to work on this alongside others? See groups, workshops and retreats.
Not sure where to start? We’ll figure it out together on your free call.
You don’t have to do this alone
If you’re feeling stuck in the same emotional or relationship patterns, exhausted from holding everything together, or unsure how to reconnect with yourself after everything you’ve been through, we can talk.
A free 15-minute video consultation is a space to slow down, briefly talk through what’s going on, and see if working together feels like a good fit. You don’t need to be done with the divorce to start. You just need to be ready for something different. No pressure. No commitment.
Frequently asked questions
Should I see a therapist during a divorce, or wait until it’s over?
You don’t have to wait. Many people find support most helpful while things are still in motion, when emotions are running high and decisions are piling up. Others start after the divorce is final, when the dust settles and the grief catches up. There’s no wrong time.
How long does it take to recover from a divorce?
There’s no set timeline, and comparing yourself to one usually adds shame. It depends on the marriage, how it ended, and what older hurts it touched. Staying busy can get you through the day, but it doesn’t heal the hurt. Actually working through it tends to help people let go of the past without losing themselves.
Do you offer divorce therapy for men?
Yes. I work with men and women going through or recovering from divorce. Many people, men especially, were taught to hold it together and keep the hurt to themselves. Therapy is a place where you don’t have to.
What’s the difference between a divorce therapist and a divorce coach?
A divorce coach offers practical support but doesn’t provide mental health care. Therapy is licensed mental health care. My one-on-one work is therapy, for Colorado residents, so there’s room for both the practical side of starting over and the anxiety, grief, or old pain the divorce has stirred up.
Can I do divorce therapy online?
Yes. Therapy is available by secure video for anyone in Colorado. In-person sessions are in Steamboat Springs and Summit County.